As I stood alongside couples laughing, and ladies clumped in cozy groups, my heart was like a kid at recess. “Pick me! Pick me,” I silently asked. I was standing on yet another foreign sideline, holding the same familiar feeling.
Like a virus that comes on the winds of winter, feelings of loneliness is my recurring companion. With every military move, I know what it is to be on the outside of belonging, alone on the sidelines.
So last weekend when I felt that familiar ache, I decided to lean into it. I didn’t push it away. I didn’t remind myself I would make friends soon. Rather, I opened my heart to feel the pull on my tender heart, and the sinking of my stomach.
Because only in understanding can one empathize.
And empathy is the bridge to action.
So next time you enter a space where you feel belonging, remember those who don’t. Whether it is at church, attending a Bible Study, or on your kid’s sports sidelines. Let my story remind you of those who are alongside you. Then let it spur you to be the love of Jesus to them. 
I have a great podcast episode offering you practical advice on how you can offer the love of God to fill the void of the feelings of loneliness in others. Click HERE to listen to the podcast. Warmly, Heather
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